Sometimes when I sit down to write a blog post, the saddest phrases come to mind. Falling apart. Feeling of dread. Landscape of hopelessness. Sheesh. Shake it off, Sydney.
The fact is, these descriptions once fit my life and my state of mind. But I’ve taken back so much control from PTSD that they no longer describe me … most of the time.
Oddly, I’m glad I can recall these feelings. Some people who read this post are living in deep sadness today, either from a recent trauma or a trauma that occurred in the past. If this describes you, I want you to know that I understand and that I’ve been there.
Other readers have processed their traumas to the point that they’ve become memories now. Vivid and tragic memories, but memories. I understand this also.
So sometimes I include the sad words to show both the struggling and the recovering readers that I can empathize with what they’re going through because I’ve gone to the depths with PTSD, and I know a bit about climbing out.
Today I saw a question posted online: “How can I find someone who really understands what I’m going through?”
This question reflects a deep need in people with PTSD.
During my worst year, God gave me a friend who was also struggling with PTSD. We sometimes talked to other people about our situations, but we learned that if they hadn’t experienced PTSD, they just couldn’t understand what it was like. So we always came back to each other.
Sometimes we didn’t even need words. We understood long silences on the phone, and we automatically knew that tears often accompanied our texts. We held each other up and we held each other accountable. What a precious gift.
Do you have a friend in your life who really understands what you’re going through? I fervently hope so. If you don’t, please message me or contact me at my website (below) for some ideas on how to find a caring PTSD partner or group.
Please don’t be afraid to reach out.
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